Receiving with Gratitude
Have you ever prompted your child by saying, “what do you say?" after they receive a gift? Or find that you brace yourself when they are opening a gift, wondering what they might say? Hopefully it’s “thank you!” but for some kids it may be “I have this already!” or “I don’t like these!” Teaching children to be gracious receivers is something that we can begin quite young.
Here are 3 ways you can teach your child to be gracious receivers:
Begin a gratitude practice at home. This can be as simple as asking them at the dinner table what they are grateful for from their day.
Focus on the thoughtfulness of a gift, as opposed to the gift itself. Whatever the gift is, the person who gave it put some thought into it. With your child you can reflect on the time and effort it took the gift giver for their thoughtfulness.
Ask them how receiving makes them feel. Opening gifts is very exciting and can bring up a lot of emotions. After the excitement dies down, we can take an opportunity to reflect on how it feels to be given something. You can ask your child how it feels in their heart to be the receiver of a gift.
Giving with Grace
Giving allows us to communicate how we feel about someone. Giving with thought is a practice that we can teach children so that it becomes second nature for them. Here are some ways that we can give that goes beyond the material world.
Buy food and bringing it to a food bank. Many pantries will provide a list of things that they need that they are running low on. Discuss with your child the items that the food pantry is requesting, and then take them to the market to pick out what they want to give. Then, bring them to the food pantry so that they can give it themselves. Involving your child in the process from beginning to end allows them to take ownership and really feel proud of their action.
Help someone in your community. Think of somebody that your child sees often but may not know well. This could be an elderly neighbor, a new family on your block, or their bus driver. Together, brainstorm ways that you can help this person with a small act of kindness. For example, baking cupcakes, offering to help with house or lawn work, babysitting, or even a cup of coffee! No good deed goes unpunished and you can reflect together how it make them feel to give to someone in their community.
Invite your child to participate in the wrapping or cardmaking. Has your child ever gone to a birthday and didn't know the gift they were giving to their friend because you got it already? It's easy to do the shopping yourself, however, involving your child in choosing the gift, wrapping, or creating a card will allow them to feel connected to the gift.
As we enter into the holiday season, we can begin to weave in these practices with the children in our lives so that they become constant practices. Imparting these small acts is one gift that will be with your child for a lifetime.
